First Time Dating Mistakes You Don't Want to Make
Dating, Relationships, Advice
In my opinion, dating is one of the scariest and most heart-wrenching adventures anyone can take in a lifetime: you don’t know what you are doing, you’re desperately trying to navigate life with another person, and you’re willing to risk getting your heart–repeatedly. So why do we do it? We’re told to stay away from most other things with this level of risk; however, we’re willing to risk it all to find that special someone. It’s the ultimate gamble that we all want to pay off.
And, to top it all off, you may feel like there’s so much you’re expected to know! Where do you even start? Well, we’re here to warn you of some issues that can make or break a relationship. These are first time dating mistakes you don’t want to make.
Remember: You’re Dating Another Person, Not Another Version of Yourself
You don’t need to look for people who share all of your interests. Sure, you should have some things in common, but if you wanted someone who is exactly like yourself, you wouldn’t need to date anyone in the first place. You have a mirror at home!
One of my most important pieces of advice to remember is making an effort: make an effort to show interests in their interests! For example, if you find yourself dating a car guy, then go with him to a car show or be his passenger when he wants to go for cruise. It shows that you value spending time with him, and that’s sure to makes your significant other feel appreciated.
It’s important to acknowledge that this should go both ways, meaning the effort you show should be reciprocated in return. If you find yourself struggling to keep it fresh as you expand your mutual interests, here’s a trending and unique twist on date ideas that will get you both out of your comfort zones.
Relationships Are All About Communication
Another crucial component of a relationship is communication. Sometimes it can be hard to communicate, especially when having difficult conversations, like addressing the wants and needs of your relationship. Simply put, sometimes it is hard to understand what the other person is trying to say! It could be because they don’t know how to express how they are feeling, or because you cannot comprehend their experience based on your own. Either way, it’s very important to get on the same page when it comes to communicating; otherwise, you won’t have any solid ground to stand on in your relationship. Instead, you may feel like you’re sinking.
My tip: try having an honest conversation about what makes you feel satisfied in a relationship. Learning a little about you and your partner’s love languages will go a long way in understanding each other’s emotions when you don’t know what to say. Here’s a helpful article on how to implement the five love languages into your life!
Intimacy Is Not Just Sex–It Can Be So Much More!
The beginning of a relationship is usually a particularly hot, steamy time where your attraction and connection brings you both closer together; however, this won’t necessarily define how intimacy occurs between you throughout your relationship. The word intimacy has many definitions, but for some, it's conveyed as an overpowering emotion that draws two people closer to each other.
You’ll want to spend plenty of time together doing things that may not seem intimate at first; this can range from binge-watching your favorite shows, cooking your own special meals, or just getting to rest next to your best friend at the end of the night. Without these secure fundamentals, your relationship may feel surface-level and ultimately will be difficult to invest in.
Learn From Those First Time Dating Mistakes You Don’t Want to Make (But Will!)
A relationship starts from within. If you want advice on how to make yourself feel like a more well-balanced adult, then read this article for some tips and tricks. Point is, you’re going to continue learning about yourself through every relationship you have. Your first relationship is unlikely to be your last, so take this as an opportunity to assess how you want to be supported, listened to, and appreciated by your partner. Learn from your mistakes!